When you get engaged, the draw and the glamour of wedding magazines can make it seem like your wedding has to be an event costing you tens of thousands of dollars. Don’t be fooled-they don’t want to teach you how to plan a wedding on a low budget because they get kickbacks for promoting expensive vendors. But there are ways to save money on your wedding and still have it be exactly the day you dream of.
1. Before you start, talk to your friends who’ve recently gotten married and talk to them about what they paid for all the different services they needed for their wedding. After getting engaged, I was lucky enough to talk to my almost sister-in-law (who loved weddings) about all the different aspects I’d need to consider.
1. 2. If you or your partner happen to be part of any organizations, check out what it costs to rent space from them for a day. For instance, the VFW in my area rents their hall at a very affordable rate. Another benefit of this is avoiding the high prices of hotel catering! https://youtu.be/-DTo9kh9D94
3. Consider planning your wedding for any time other than a Saturday night-that is the single most expensive time for weddings! Even a Saturday wedding afternoon, where the difference in time is only a few hours, will save you money.
4. Do all the comparison shopping you have time for. Although it may seem overly time-consuming, if you have the right documents with the right questions to ask different vendors, you will be able to blaze through comparison shopping and get right down to finding the best quality for the best price!
3. 3 Easy and Unhealthy Mistakes to Fall Into When Planning Your Perfect Second Wedding
Second marriages are a gift from the gods. So often when a marriage ends, we can’t believe that we will ever trust anyone again. And then love knocks on the door of our hearts. And here you are! Getting married again. Why not give this second chance a great send off? Don’t get caught in these traps:
1. Limiting yourself to the choices you had and made in your first wedding. Everyone says oh, of course you can wear a white wedding gown. And of course you can! But nobody ever asks you if you considered wearing something scarlet because it’s hugely flattering and that now that you have a much better image of who you are, you want to be as bold and beautiful as you are. Wear a dress the color of passion or the color of fertility. Have a more casual wedding or a more intimate one. Dance the samba as your wedding dance. Have a great time. Avoid thinking small: Think about how this love has transformed your life and plan a wedding ceremony that is worthy of it.
2. Thinking that people owe you another huge wedding present. A friend of mine was recently invited to a work colleague’s third wedding. She had picked out a new silver pattern. Each setting was over $500. My wildly generous friend bought her a wooden salad bowl. It felt like gouging to her. You’re older, you’re wiser, and presumably a little further along in life. It’s unlikely you’ll need showers with big gifts or piles of wedding presents. You already have two households that you’re going to or have already combined. Avoid this. Focus on the fact that you have found this amazing love which has transformed disappointment and allowed you to venture into marriage which was the last thing on your mind when you met! Keep the wedding about the wedding ceremony, the wedding vows you will make to one another and celebrating the combined community who are celebrating with you.
3. Ignoring the fact that you were married before. This wedding is a miracle because you came so far to get here. It wasn’t easy. You had trials and tribulations. You were hurt and you probably hurt people. That’s what happens in divorce. When you made those promises, you intended to keep them. There were good reasons why you didn’t. For many of you there are children that were a result of that earlier marriage. And you are bringing them forward into your new life and love along with all the lessons you learned. Now you are ready for new love and new promises and you can make them with a full and open heart. Avoid this: This new marriage is a symbol of your growth and you want everyone to understand that you hold promises dear. That’s going to make your marriage rock for a very long time.
Each marriage is a precious and sacred thing and you have been lucky enough to give yourselves and one another a second chance. Enjoy it to the fullest. The more you celebrate how lovely love is when you have come upon it again, the more you will cherish it in your life ahead.
Bottom Line?: Give your relationship the chance it deserves to succeed wildly, against all odds! After all, you deserve it. Your relationship deserves it! And now I’d like to invite you to sign up to receive 2 free templates for creating the wedding ceremony of your dreams, the wedding vows of your heart and the marriage of a lifetime